Brittany did some research on how to improve family communication strategies! Sometimes in families it can be hard to understand how others are feeling because we are all communicating in different styles and on different levels; because of this, there can be misunderstandings and hurt. However, if you read what Brittany has created we can find that communication can be improved by implementing a few key things into your family! Here is what she said:
Improving communication inside the home helps create a healthy environment where children feel loved and safe. Good communication creates a healthy family culture that sets children up for success in future relationships. In his “Sermon 94: On Family Religion”, John Wesley, argues that good communication helps families “serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15, NIV), and he encourages parents to communicate with gentleness and with God’s will for their children in mind. Wesley claims that teaching children early, plainly, and frequently sets them up for the most success, so start young, use language appropriate to your child’s developmental stage, and talk often.
Good communication in families fosters environments for faith formation to occur. Through various types of prayer like imaginative prayer and conversational prayer and sharing stories of the family and from the Bible, parents can effectively pass on their faith to their children. These practices require good communication skills that help children develop their own personal relationships with God. Wesley calls parents to lead by example, modeling spiritual disciplines for their children and correcting errors in mildness. Teaching early, plainly, and frequently applies to teachings of the faith too. Using resources like LifeWay’s Levels of Biblical Learning can help parents communicate the truth of Biblical concepts in language that children can developmentally understand, even at a young age. Knowing how and when to communicate with your children about their faith will help your children’s faith formation develop and grow.
SOUND LIKE SOMETHING YOU WANT?
USE THESE 6 STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION IN YOUR HOME…
1) LISTEN ACTIVELY
Put away those cell phones and devices when talking with your children. Make eye contact. Turn your body toward them. Give them your full attention. The CDC says that showing you are listening models good listening skills for them and makes them feel heard.
2) BE SPECIFIC
When giving both instructions and praise for good behavior, be specific. Too often we rely on generic encouragement, but pointing out exactly what your child does helps them learn good behavior faster and boosts self-esteem. Giving specific instructions sets your kids up for success.
3) SET EXPECTATIONS (FOR KIDS AND PARENTS!)
Setting expectations (for both the kids and the parents) helps everyone stay on the same page. Make sure your kids know what is expected of them, and let them share what they want from you too! Talk as a family about how you want to treat each other and what you need.
4) PAY ATTENTION TO NONVERBAL CUES & BODY LANGUAGE
Sometimes what your kids say may be different than what they actually need. Look past their words and tone of voice to dig deeper into what the problem may be. Are they unusually shy? Are they unusually cranky? Use body language and other nonverbal clues to help resolve the problem.
5) LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND
Especially when talking with teenagers (and their hormones), listening with the intent to understand rather than advise or scold helps students feel respected and valued. You can also help them work through solving the problem together rather than solving the problem for them.
6) PAUSE BEFORE RESPONDING
Becoming a parent does not suddenly give you unlimited levels of patience. You will get frustrated, and that’s OK. But before responding in anger, take a moment to take a deep breath, count to ten, and respond in love.
SO, NOW WHAT?
Pray about ways you can develop good communication in your home.
Talk about ways to implement these strategies with your spouse and children.
Jump right in and improve your family’s communication today!
AND REMEMBER, PARENTING IS HARD WORK FOR ALL PARENTS, NOT JUST YOU.
YOU CAN DO THIS.
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